I now view relationships unfold from the outside rather than the inside. That's the difference between being married and being single.
Looking at my blog posts from a few years back just takes me back to a different life. What masala! I would love to read sex-in-the-city-ish posts like that today. Does anybody write stuff like that in the mainstream media? I'm discounting Shobhaa De's pretentious column on Mumbai Mirror which I doubt any non-socialite would relate to. Did you read Why Sarojben matters more than Jashodaben where De talks about the middle class from this lens of "Oh this is what others go through"? Most of De's content relies on second hand experiences of middle class people seen by the lady living the good life. We need some real middle class women talking about life in the city. Newspapers and magazines, are you listening? *Grin*
But look what's happened to me now! All the masala I know of is happening in other people's lives. Crushes, heartbreaks, fights, reluctance, being unsure, drama, breaking up, making up, making out - I am only a listener. And it has majorly dented the amount of content I'm able to generate. Lol.
But since I'm in reflection mode, I've been trying to put it all in perspective here. Based on (aforementioned) second hand experiences, what is life like when you're single and 30 - man or woman? Dude, its loads and loads of fun!
Lifestyle
At 30, you've crossed the stage where you were making just about adequate money and are usually into the big bucks. Since you don't have a spouse and/ or children, you have a huge savings surplus that you spend on the good life. Booze, parties, great food, more booze, holidays, movies, more booze, friends, dates, more booze. And then some more booze.
Dating
From time to time, you meet someone who you are desperately trying to fit into your specific requirements for a partner. More often than not, no matter how hard you try and no matter how much you try to convince yourself, there's that nagging feeling that this just cannot be the one. At 30, you can find faults with everybody. EVERYBODY. But that means that you meet new people all the time. You're constantly evaluating - your mind's working full time! And gaining mind blowing experience that you just can't get anywhere else.
Work
Even though you work more, you actually work less. Coz when you're single, work stops at the workplace. Then you're back home and it's just your life. No planning for lunches and dinners, no buying stuff based on multiple family member requirements and (this is the biggest one of all) just one family to cater to. When you're married, your family doubles instantly and now you need to speak to all parties on the phone, remember double the number of birthdays and anniversaries, buy gifts for double the occasions. Work is less when you're single. Enjoy it!
Bedroom
People with your own bedrooms will totally get this. Are you used to sleeping in a bed all by yourself? With a room full of your stuff? Kept in the places that you want them to be kept in? Cherish that! It's the place you can go to at the end of the day and think, laugh, cry, whatever. It's your space. YOUR space! God, would married people kill for that!
Friends
You don't have to go for that chick flick (or that movie with subtitles). You can spend as much time as you want with your friends doing the things that you like. Sleepovers, late night drives, last minute plans, pub-hopping - all with your safe bunch of people by your side. Whenever you want, without checking with your spouse's time table or (like in my case) with your cook if she has already prepared your dinner or not!
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Single and 30. Forget the peer pressure. You're living the life you couldn't live when you were in your early 20s and won't be able to live when you're 40. Make it large!
Looking at my blog posts from a few years back just takes me back to a different life. What masala! I would love to read sex-in-the-city-ish posts like that today. Does anybody write stuff like that in the mainstream media? I'm discounting Shobhaa De's pretentious column on Mumbai Mirror which I doubt any non-socialite would relate to. Did you read Why Sarojben matters more than Jashodaben where De talks about the middle class from this lens of "Oh this is what others go through"? Most of De's content relies on second hand experiences of middle class people seen by the lady living the good life. We need some real middle class women talking about life in the city. Newspapers and magazines, are you listening? *Grin*
But look what's happened to me now! All the masala I know of is happening in other people's lives. Crushes, heartbreaks, fights, reluctance, being unsure, drama, breaking up, making up, making out - I am only a listener. And it has majorly dented the amount of content I'm able to generate. Lol.
But since I'm in reflection mode, I've been trying to put it all in perspective here. Based on (aforementioned) second hand experiences, what is life like when you're single and 30 - man or woman? Dude, its loads and loads of fun!
Lifestyle
At 30, you've crossed the stage where you were making just about adequate money and are usually into the big bucks. Since you don't have a spouse and/ or children, you have a huge savings surplus that you spend on the good life. Booze, parties, great food, more booze, holidays, movies, more booze, friends, dates, more booze. And then some more booze.
Dating
From time to time, you meet someone who you are desperately trying to fit into your specific requirements for a partner. More often than not, no matter how hard you try and no matter how much you try to convince yourself, there's that nagging feeling that this just cannot be the one. At 30, you can find faults with everybody. EVERYBODY. But that means that you meet new people all the time. You're constantly evaluating - your mind's working full time! And gaining mind blowing experience that you just can't get anywhere else.
Work
Even though you work more, you actually work less. Coz when you're single, work stops at the workplace. Then you're back home and it's just your life. No planning for lunches and dinners, no buying stuff based on multiple family member requirements and (this is the biggest one of all) just one family to cater to. When you're married, your family doubles instantly and now you need to speak to all parties on the phone, remember double the number of birthdays and anniversaries, buy gifts for double the occasions. Work is less when you're single. Enjoy it!
Bedroom
People with your own bedrooms will totally get this. Are you used to sleeping in a bed all by yourself? With a room full of your stuff? Kept in the places that you want them to be kept in? Cherish that! It's the place you can go to at the end of the day and think, laugh, cry, whatever. It's your space. YOUR space! God, would married people kill for that!
Friends
You don't have to go for that chick flick (or that movie with subtitles). You can spend as much time as you want with your friends doing the things that you like. Sleepovers, late night drives, last minute plans, pub-hopping - all with your safe bunch of people by your side. Whenever you want, without checking with your spouse's time table or (like in my case) with your cook if she has already prepared your dinner or not!
Single and 30. Forget the peer pressure. You're living the life you couldn't live when you were in your early 20s and won't be able to live when you're 40. Make it large!
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